Hi everyone!

I really need help creating a detangling/leave in hair product for me. Due to my weak immune system and allergies, I have struggled to find hair products I do not have an allergic reaction to. For the past year, I have been making my own hair products (slippery elm as my detangler and Okra Gel as my gel) but I am not satisfied with the results.

I have 3c/4a, low porosity and fine curls. The two products that have worked best for me as leave ins and detanglers are Kinky Curly Knot Today Leave In and Smoothing Lotion Curly Junkie. Both products have slippery elm, Behentrimonium Methosulfate, and Cetyl/cetearyl Alcohol ingredients in common. I would like to find a recipe to make out of those three ingredients primarily. I am hoping the slip will be as incredible as Kinky Curly Knot Today or Curl Assurance Smoothing Lotion by Curly Junkie. My DIY slippery elm conditioner has good slip but I am finding I need even more slip. As well as I am not able to leave the slippery elm on my hair because it coats it. I need something that will be able to moisturize, absorb, and blend into my hair. Please let me know if you can help me out!

Thank you so much!